You don't want this

I’m now in my mid-50s, and I’ve been spending time talking with my wife and brother about things we don’t want to carry into our 60s, 70s, and 80s. For now, we’ll just focus on what we specifically don’t want to carry into our next decade of life. For me, my wife, and brother, that’s our 60s. There is something each of us needs to heal from, something we need to let go of, something we need to put down that no longer serves us. It’s like that for all of us. No one is exempt.

In our 20s, we spend this decade learning what it means to be an adult, i.e. adulting. We learn how to care for our needs, we learn how to pay bills, how to get and sustain a job, etc. That’s already enough. But when we reach our 30s and 40s and beyond, now we’re refining what we’ve learned. We can start to let go of things that don’t matter as much, we can heal, we can mature.

Here’s the bottom line…you don’t want some of the things you’re experiencing now to be carried 10+ years down the line. You want freedom. You want peace. You want growth and healing. No one wants to stay trapped by their own mess, their angst, their doubts, fears, and troubles. We want to live a life that means so much more than that.

How do we do live a life that’s free from our pains, hurts, doubts, and fears? There’s no easy answer. It takes work. It starts with identifying what it is you don’t want anymore. Once you’ve identified it, you take steps to let it go. You can meet with a therapist or psychologist, attend a group meeting. There are so many groups that gather specifically to help others heal. Talk about it with your loved ones, share with them what you don’t want to take into your next decade of life. Pray, meditate, quiet your mind. Listen and learn from those who have gone before you and have let go and moved on.

Just know that everyone has something that they don’t want. It’s time to let it go.

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