true love let's go
- Marvello V
- Sep 22, 2019
- 2 min read
“There are some things we just can’t change about ourselves. And that’s a good thing.”
—Jill Sherer Murray, The Unstoppable Power of Letting Go, Dec 21, 2016.
I shared with someone recently that we can make anything complicated if we want. It’s really about how we approach things. When it comes to spirituality, one of my goals is to simplify what it really means. And one thing I’ve learned is true love let’s go.
Love isn’t clingy. It doesn’t try to take revenge or punish people. Love doesn’t agonize over how it’s been mistreated or ignored. Love let’s go.
I watched a TED talk by Jill Sherer Murray and she shared 5 steps to let go:
Let go of taking things personally.
Let go of what other people think.
Let go of trying to be something you’re not.
Let go of the need to be perfect.
Let go of “not yet”.
Jill’s lessons-learned came later in her life, so if you’re a young adult and can apply these steps to your life right now, you’ll be better off the rest of your life. Also, the steps align with what’s true about love—it let’s go.
“It’s his issue, not some defect in me. If people aren’t giving you what you want or are just behaving badly, most times that’s their problem not yours.”
—Ibid.
Letting go is not an easy choice. Especially when you have other people trying to tell you what they would do. Ultimately, you have to live with the consequences of your choices so it doesn’t matter what anybody has to say about what they would or would not do. You get to choose how you want to respond to the events of your life.
There is a fine line between letting go and not taking care of yourself. Even though true love let’s go, love inherently self-cares. So, letting go doesn’t mean you let yourself be picked on or mistreated. There are times to stand up for yourself and establish clear relationship boundaries. The most important thing to know about letting go is to not overspend mental or emotional energy on a problem you can’t change. Letting go is a practice in self-care and loving others. Give yourself time to learn how to balance both.
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